So… I’ve been quietly discussing my racial opinions offline because I’ve long learned I have an unpopular opinion and sometimes social networks isn’t the place to have an intelligent debate. Since I’ve been on hiatus and I’ve had just about enough of this black vs white nonsense. I feel like maybe I should speak my mind… vent… whichever you prefer to call it.
Let me start by saying I don’t usually read black vs white articles or really care what most people think. However, while on Facebook I came across an article that someone shared and I have mixed emotions about it. The article Why I’m Not Here for #WhiteGirlsRock was very well written and while I might not agree with every point made the fact remains it’s HER point. Before we even begin to tackle the black vs white issue can we address the ‘we can’t even stand each other’ issue?
Yes, I said it out loud and in public WE (black people) can’t stand each other or at least that’s the role we tend to play. I’ve been called an Oreo, House Nigger and all types of variations of being the shade of coffee milk since I was in 3rd grade. The funny thing that is in 3rd grade I had no clue what it even meant so my response was to laugh with the rest of the children whom I’m sure also had no clue wtf calling me an Oreo Cookie really meant. Being of mixed race really matters to no one all they see is skin tone. So I’m light skinned and that means that I am conceited, entitled, slow to respond to text and get treated like royalty by every man I meet. If I was dark skinned I’d be ghetto, immediately respond to texts and have hair like Brillo? Seriously, these are the jokes and meme’s we retweet for hours but as soon as someone which seems to not be of African descent jokingly or not makes the SAME comments we want to conjure the spirits of Malcolm X and MLK, Jr. WE need to stop being so contradictory and flaky on issues that impact us. WE need to stop making new rules daily on what’s acceptable and not acceptable. Like is it ok to say Nigger? or does Nigga make it a different word? Ok so why can I say it but my neighbor can’t?
I am not blind to the fact that racism exists but what I purposely ignore is the BS. Yes, there are some barriers that exist because I’m black but also because I am a woman. In everything I do I am true to me. I don’t represent a race because some days I don’t even know what race I am in. If I paid attention to the shade I get from my own people or comments made by my own people I would honestly never succeed at anything. So instead of picking fights on the internet and the supermarket and taking every incident as being racially motivated maybe invest your time in embracing your own race. Be black and be proud. Be white and be proud. Hell be purple and be proud but don’t claim to know anything about me because I represent and ideal to you. Don’t tell me I don’t understand because I’ve never struggled – you don’t know that.
I lived where everyone looked like me… or so I thought. I was completely and totally engulfed in real life drama and the color of my skin just didn’t take precedence nor did my grandmother who was raised in the south make it dinner discussion. My family is a complete mish mash of every and anything under the sun. We are all shades, speak different languages, have all types of hair textures and scale the spectrum of low, middle and high class. Now that I live in the South I have to have certain discussions with my teen because certain things have occurred. More notably we live down the street from where Trayvon Martin was killed. When things happen to my son regarding school instances or whatever I try to give different reasons for why things may have occurred. To me yelling racism is a cop out SOMETIMES. There are times when someone is biased clearly but could have ulterior reasons. I am not trying to raise a bitter black man I am raising a well informed respectful young MAN. This topic can continue forever and we never find a resolution but what I will say is how do we claim to want equal rights and say other races have the wrong idea about us but WE take videos of things like Sharkeisha and make it viral, laugh, poke fun and seem like this is ok. All this does is make people say “See, I tell you it’s 2013 and they still don’t act right” … Think About it *deuces*
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